I never thought I'd get to this point. It is the best feeling to have made it! I can look back, and not just see the pain. Looking at pictures no longer brings back the anger and regret. Instead I can appreciate what I had with all the people who have hurt me while it lasted. I miss those relationships and the good times, but it doesn't hurt anymore. Amazing!
What did I do to get here? I learned what forgiveness means. Fr. Hugh Gillespie explained it at Totus Tuus last weekend. I'll try to repeat it here...
Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting. It doesn't mean pretending you weren't hurt. You have to acknowledge what happened and admit that it did hurt. Then you resolve not to continue victimizing yourself and holding it against the other person.
I'm still not in touch with most of the people I've forgiven for various reasons, but I don't have to be. I've done my part and it feels heavenly!
Pax Christi!
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